Parenting

I’m not bossy, I am the boss.

 

When I saw this mug I knew it was going to be mine. Why? I’s so glad you asked! First off this mug is true. I am a mom and I am the boss. That is just the way it goes. I spent ten months pregnant, I spent thirteen hours in labor, and I gave life to a human. That right there makes you the boss by default.

Second, this is what I lived by as a child, and so does my daughter.  I was told constantly that I was a bossy little girl, and that I needed to learn how to sit down. That I needed to learn to take the back seat, and to shut my mouth. The truth is, I was bossy. I was bossy because I was a leader with no tools.

We tell our children, especially our daughters to stop being bossy. That they need to be sweet and kind. While that is true, they should be kind to others… but that doesn’t mean that they should stop being leaders. In fact it is our job as parents to help our children develop their characteristic traits.

Being bossy doesn’t mean being a mean person

As a child, mine was being a leader.  I wanted to be captain, I wanted to lead small groups. I had thoughts and ideas that I needed to express, and I knew they were good.  Being a leader made me feel like I belonged.  As an adult I craved to be the boss, I wanted management. I currently own my own business. One of the best things about being a leader is that it makes me a better mom, I enjoy guiding and building up my child.  I love to see her succeed.

My daughter is currently in the bossy phase, and I do not mind. She is a natural-born leader, and possibly a bit of a perfectionist. (We are working on the perfectionism part) She is only five so I am only able to give her so many tool at this age, but I know one day she will be great. So if you have a child that is bossy, replace “Bossy” with LEADER! You gave to give that child some grace, and tools in their toolbox to effectively be a leader.

Just remember, I am not bossy, I am the boss! mug, bossy, parenting

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