My Daughter Was Bullied Because She Has Short Hair
So about a month ago Lexi wanted to cut off all of her hair. Part of me just was not sure if it was a good idea. I was worried she would regret her choice, or that someone might even make fun of her. Then one day she looked at me and said “Mommy, I do not feel beautiful with long hair, it’s hot, and I just hate it.” I told my husband and we both 100% agreed that it meant that she needed a hair cut.
Our child is bold, fierce, and independent.
We LOVE it. Some how we lucked into having a very strong-willed, smart, leader, who is a power house. And my husband and I are the right parents for the job. The majority of people have loved her cut, honestly it complements her.
Tonight when she was playing in the indoor play park at the YMCA, there were little boys that were bullying her. They called her little boy, made her feel unconformable. She didn’t tell Nate and I until we had left. She bursted into tears and told us what happened. We told her we can’t help her if she doesn’t tell us, and comforted her the best we could. We thought that we had nipped the self-esteem issue in the butt. I was wrong.
We all got home, and I told Lexi to go get ready for bed. After I moved my plant out of the rain, I started to walk up stairs and I heard bawling and growling. Then I walked into our bathroom and she was trying to pull her hair so it would grow so no one would think she was a boy. To look into your five year-old’s eyes and see huge tear drops pouring out, you realize that you really need to sit down and have a talk.
It’s not just that she was being bullied, it’s much deeper than that.
My husband finds me and our daughter in the bathroom talking about the problem that happened. He started to pull up people like Emma Watson, and P!nk to show her that she is not the only girl with short hair. Then he keeled down and looked at Lexi in her eyes and said ‘Do you know why those boys are bullying you?” She shook her head no. He said “It’s because they are sexist, they believe that because you are a girl you shouldn’t have short hair.” So we explained that this applies to anything, being smart, playing soccer, being strong. Also, it also applies to a boy who might have long hair.
In conclusion I stood there and looked at my husband, thinking how much generation to generation we evolve. He hit the nail on the head, and he empowered his daughter to stand up to sexism. There is something special about a father that can look his daughter in the eye and explain sexism to her.